We live in a fast paced culture where we have to juggle many different balls at once both in our personal and professional lives. Because of our intense work environments, our challenging classes, and our busy social lives, we can end up over working ourselves and compromising our health. When we feel unfocused or exhausted and overexerted, it is easy for us to fall back on stimulants to help us stay on top of our daily tasks. There are a wide variety of stimulants: everything from Adderall and Ritalin to more subtle stimulants, such as coffee and sugar. While many stimulants are capable of improving mood and relieving anxiety, they are only temporary fixes that usually come with a crash and can easily be habit forming.
Take a moment and think: Have you needed to use stimulants on a regular basis? Do you feel dependent on them for your success? We’ve all been off balance before, but sometimes we forget how to get that balance back.
In our culture, vulnerability can be seen as a weakness. Even the dictionary labels vulnerability as: “Susceptible to physical or emotional injury or susceptible to attack.” Many people are afraid of being vulnerable with themselves and with others due to social pressures, gender roles, and fear of feeling unaccepted.
We are challenging you to think differently.
Brené Brown, a research professor at the University Of Houston Graduate College Of Social Work, has spent the past ten years studying vulnerability, courage, authenticity, and shame. She states that “Vulnerability is not weakness and that myth is profoundly dangerous. Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.”
Then why do we struggle with vulnerability?
We all know how challenging it can be to find a job out of college, let alone the “perfect” job. It is not always easy to navigate the job market or even know how to begin looking for work. It is also normal to feel lost while trying to get your feet solidly on the ground. Here are some tips to help stay mentally focused, determined, and feeling empowered through the job search process.
1. Make a list of possible careers that interest you and begin collecting research. This could include creating a folder full of articles, videos, blog posts, and interviews with experts in the fields of study that you want to pursue. Ask to interview mentors who have experience in the industry you want to enter.
2. Make sure you have an up to date resume and ready to go at all times. Do not be afraid to get feedback from people in your life who have good resume building skills.
3. Nowadays, entry level jobs are asking for 2 to 3 years of experience in a field, in addition to a specific degree. Job listings don’t tell you is that this can be negotiated. If you can prove your value in a job and your personal drive, and you are willing to take an entry level position, you have a good chance at getting the job.
Creating long term intimacy is an art form and takes work, time, dedication, and presence. Psychotherapist Esther Perel is changing the conversation on what it means to be in love and have a fulfilling sex life. She takes her message about erotic intelligence all over the world. She says that we, as humans, have two fundamental needs in relationships, which are actually in contradiction to one another. The first need is our need for security, predictability, safety, dependability, our need to feel home, or need to be loved. The second need is our longing for adventure, novelty, mystery, risk, danger, unknown, surprise, and desire.
In committed relationships, we can develop unrealistic expectations of our partner if we expect them to feed us in every single way possible. But this is easy to do and at some point in relationships, we all do it. We end up asking one person to give us what a village once would have provided. We want belonging, identity, but also transcendence, awe, and mystery all in one.