Shiva in the new digital age

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When my mother got sick two years ago from cancer, I spent a lot of time utilizing Facebook as a way to raise money for her treatments, by posting information through an online fundraising account and updating information on how she was doing via Facebook. I did this because Facebook was the largest platform that I could think of to reach the largest number of people. Last fall, when she passed away, I felt it was only appropriate to post about it on Facebook since she her friends were following her progress there. That day, I received over 200 Facebook likes and comments. I also got a handful of text messages and calls, but only one person showed up at my house the whole first month I was grieving. Why was this? I realized in that moment that Shiva has dramatically changed in this new digital age. When it comes to death (and other uncomfortable subjects), it is easier to post a comment on Facebook or send a text than it is to go to someone’s house and be with them in person.
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A New Way to Look at A Crush

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Sarah had been with her boyfriend for three years. She was very happy with him and they could see a future together.  Because of this, she was baffled every time she went to her graduate chemistry class because she got intense butterflies for one of her classmates.  Every time he walked into class and smiled at her or every time she heard him say something smart she would get weak in the knees. She had no intention of leaving her boyfriend for this other guy, and yet–part of her felt guilty for feeling attracted to this person and fantasizing about being with him for the few moments after he walked into the room.
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Katie was raped eight years ago and just this month had the courage to speak up about it. Here is what she has to say to you.

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The #Yesallwomen campaign made me feel safe to come forward with what happened to me. It was because of that campaign that I found a voice. When that campaign started, I read many of the brave and heartbreaking stories that others had posted, including some from my closest friends. My immediate response was to say to myself “They are so brave. I could never say what happened to me.” That was my wake up call.
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My first AA meeting as a non-alcoholic

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I was anxious and scared but people surprisingly bent over backwards to make me feel included and comfortable at my first AA meeting. I had at least five people come up to me, introduce themselves, and start a friendly conversation. There was an incredible amount of trust in the room. People felt comfortable sharing stories to complete strangers—something I could never see myself having the courage to do.  Everyone came from a non-judgmental, open place. As people stood up and spoke, I realized what great courage and vulnerability it took to share their stories. Some were humble and funny while others were sad, hopeful, intimate, and enlightening.

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