What happens when you move in with your significant other and you have a big blow out?

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Being on a lease with your partner can feel like being married. You have a legal contract that binds you two. This can easily create pressure in your relationship particularly if you are already fighting with your partner. What happens if you have a huge fight? How will you work out your argument? What happens if you break up? What happens if you want to leave but you don’t know how? It can get more complicated to make hard decisions if you both live in the same place.

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When do you know its right to move in with a significant other?

jfdfn Moving in with a significant other can be great. Having privacy together especially if you are used to living at home or with roommates where you sacrifice some of your alone time to be with others, can be a meaningful experience. You will get to see how you both are with one another in your most comfortable setting—behind closed doors. You both will be able to tell what works naturally and what needs working on. It might even feel like you are playing house, which can feel exciting and fun. It can also be rewarding to spend so much time together doing exactly what you want to do. It can be a big money saver if you guys split rent and groceries. Some couples who move in together even create a joint savings fund for groceries, fun activities, and household expenses. Moving in with someone will definitely show you how well the two of you mesh together.
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When it is OK to live at home with your parents without it being embarrassing?

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According to the Huffington Post 21.6 million young adults live at home with their parents. Is living at home with your parents embarrassing? In European cultures, no one is shamed for living at home in their 20’s and 30’s. In the US, it is harder for people—especially older generations who as a rule left the house by eighteen—to accept the new reality that young adults are moving back home due to the poor job economy. Although more young Americans are living with their parents than ever these days, it’s important to not feel like this is an embarrassment or that there’s something wrong with you because of it.

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Why the “in love” feeling fades and why it is crucial for your relationship to fall out of the “honeymoon” phase in order to keep growing

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You fall in love. You really do fall head over heels. You want to spend every moment with that person and you think about him or her in every moment of your spare time. You start dating and for the first few months you cannot possibly imagine anything going wrong with your perfect romance.

When we first fall in love with someone we pour all of our energy into that person. We become infatuated with them. Studies have shown reward-giving brain chemical dopamine is at higher levels in those in love. Dopamine is key to our experiences of pleasure and pain, linked to desire, addiction, euphoria, and a surge may cause such acute feelings of reward that it makes love hard to give up. Mood-altering serotonin levels may fall in a similar way to those seen in people with obsessive-compulsive disorder, explaining why love can make us feel anxious and jittery. The hormone that causes our hearts to race when we see the person we like is adrenaline.

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