The economy is in a rut and the student loan collectors are beginning to call. So where do you go next? The answer for many of us is moving back in with our “ ‘rents.” Moving home after being independent for an extended period of time can feel like a major downer. It’s easy to feel demotivated and depressed as you confront this major lifestyle change. However, it really doesn’t have to be that bad! Here are some tips to help make living with the “ ’rents” a more positive experience:
1) Remember first and foremost that your parents are doing you a favor by providing you free or discounted shelter. Remember to say thank you – your parents will appreciate your gratitude.
2) Set a time frame for how long you plan to live at home. If you are job-hunting, don’t allow yourself to get too distracted. Make yourself a schedule and stick to it.
3) Set ground rules with your parents. If you are living with any new roommates, it’s important to assert your needs and set boundaries. Your dad might not want you coming home after the sun has already risen…however, you also have the right to tell him not to snoop through your stuff. Mutual respect will go a long way.
4) Remind yourself that your time with your parents is still an opportunity to move forward and build your life. You can continue seeing friends, dating, and more.
5) Establish local support networks. Give your friend from high school a call, hang out in local coffee shops, and reintegrate yourself in your community. Seek new friends.
6) Stay the responsible adult you are or are becoming. Contribute. Regressing to being taken care of by our folks is so tempting but so stunting. You don’t want to be living on their couch in your 30’s.