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Who Says You Can't Go Home?

The economy is in a rut and the student loan collectors are beginning to call. So where do you go next? The answer for many of us is moving back in with our “ ‘rents.” Moving home after being independent for an extended period of time can feel like a major downer.  It’s easy to feel demotivated and depressed as you confront this major lifestyle change.  However, it really doesn’t have to be that bad! Here are some tips to help make living with the “ ’rents” a more positive experience:

1)      Remember first and foremost that your parents are doing you a favor by providing you free or discounted shelter.  Remember to say thank you – your parents will appreciate your gratitude.

2)      Set a time frame for how long you plan to live at home. If you are job-hunting, don’t allow yourself to get too distracted.  Make yourself a schedule and stick to it.

3)      Set ground rules with your parents.  If you are living with any new roommates, it’s important to assert your needs and set boundaries.  Your dad might not want you coming home after the sun has already risen…however, you also have the right to tell him not to snoop through your stuff.   Mutual respect will go a long way.

4)      Remind yourself that your time with your parents is still an opportunity to move forward and build your life.  You can continue seeing friends, dating, and more.

5)      Establish local support networks.  Give your friend from high school a call, hang out in local coffee shops, and reintegrate yourself in your community.  Seek new friends.

6)      Stay the responsible adult you are or are becoming. Contribute. Regressing to being taken care of by our folks is so tempting but so stunting. You don’t want to be living on their couch in your 30’s.

 

Survival Tips for Moving Back Home

If you're a 20-something and moving back home with your parents, you're not alone. About a third of Americans in their 20s live with their parents at least once. Often this happens during stressful times of transition- after college graduation, between jobs or apartments, after a relationship has ended. Today's graduates face a tough economy full of unpaid internships, and we often have thousands of dollars of debt. So what's the trick to surviving the "boomerang" move back into your parents' empty nest? It's really important to maintain good communication so that tensions don't arise. Here's a few tips for keeping the peace while living with your folks:

  • Set a move-out date. Create a timeline for how long you plan to stay. If something needs to be accomplished (finding a job, saving a certain amount of money, renting a new apartment), specify that goal and what steps you need to take as you work toward it.
  • Budget together. You may think that living at home is "free," but it certainly is not. Sit down with your parents and discuss a realistic way for you to take some financial responsibility while you are living at home. Will you pay rent, cover the cost of food, or take care of cell phone bills? Think of this as an opportunity to learn better budgeting skills for when you get out on your own again.
  • Discuss responsibilities. Sit down and have a discussion with your parents in which you offer to help out with chores and household tasks. When in doubt, treat your parents like you would roommates; Don't expect them to do your laundry or clean up after you.
  • Talk about boundaries. You may be used to living by your own rules, but the house rules may not have changed since the last time you lived there. Have an honest conversation with your parents about what kinds of expectations everyone has about privacy, noise, hours, etc. Recognize that there will likely be situations where you will need to give up what you want because you are living under your parents' roof.

The most important piece of advice: try to take advantage of reconnecting with your parents without taking advantage of your parents. While living at home may not have been what you imagined for yourself, try to look at it as an opportunity. Your family can offer valuable support as you look toward the future.