Bullying is the repeated intimidation or aggression by a person trying to gain power over someone else. Types of Bullying:
- Physical: Harm through damage or threat of damage to another's physical well-being
- Verbal: Obvious and/or hidden verbal acts of aggression toward another person including put downs, threats and name calling
- Relational: Behavior intended to harm someone by damaging his/her relationship with others (gossip, spreading rumors, teasing, exclusion)
- Cyberbullying: Sending or posting harmful or cruel text or images using the internet or other digital communication devices
What to do when....
- You're a Bully: Stop immediately. Bullying hurts the victim and you. It sets a bad example, and it may cause you to lose friends. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect! There are better ways to solve conflicts. Ask a trusted adult for help if you feel angry or upset.
- You're a Bystander: Your involvement makes a difference. Don't just stand by and watch quietly. Stand up for the person being bullied! If you feel safe, tell the bully to stop, using phrases like "Stop teasing!" "Don't fight" "Leave him alone!" and "It's not funny." Don't join in. Don't laugh at the victim or participate in teasing, harassing, or fighting. It will only encourage the bully to continue. Help the victim walk away. Encourage others to help the victim. Get help from a trusted adult and report the bullying. Afterward, tell the victim you feel bad about what happened. Be a good friend by including the victim in activities.
- You're a Victim: You are not responsible for the bully's behavior. It's not your fault. Don't respond by giving in, getting upset, or fighting back. Instead, be calm and assertive. Sometimes the best response is to walk away. Get help from a trusted adult.
How to deal with conflict: Use the "S.E.A.L. steps"
- STOP: Who is the conflict with and what is it about? When and where will you talk to the person?
- EXPLAIN: How are you feeling, and what do you want to happen?
- AFFIRM AND ACKNOWLEDGE: What rights do you and the other person have in the situation? Do you have a role in the conflict?
- LOCK: What do you want your relationship to be? Do you want to lock in the friendship, lock it out, or take a vacation?