When you're in a healthy relationship...
- You respect each other
- You don’t try to control each other
- You’re not afraid of your partner
- You have some breathing room. You don’t feel bad about making time to see your friends and do the things you enjoy doing.
- You listen to each other
- You make decisions together
- You feel okay disagreeing and can both compromise
When you’re in an unhealthy relationship:
- You get called names or get hit
- You never hang out with your friends or family anymore.
- You’re getting constant text messages
- Your partner gets jealous of everyone you talk to and everything you do
- Your partner tries to control you
- Your partner shows up unannounced
- You find yourself sticking up for your partner
- You feel pressured to do things that make you uncomfortable
It’s hard to know what you want in a partner when you don’t really know who you are. When you’re in a relationship, make sure you have someone you can talk to. We all need a “go to” person to check in with. Spend time figuring out what makes you passionate (working with animals, art, music) and do it! Go make a difference in the world. This is a great way to build your self-esteem. When you do what you love, you’ll attract the right kind of person into your life who can appreciate all of your qualities and who doesn’t want to change you.