12 things to STOP doing after the New Year
As 2014 approaches, we are reminded of what to let go of in our lives so that we can make room for what we really want. Need some motivation this New Year? Let’s take a closer look at our “not so nice” habits. Maybe we could all benefit from a little kick in the butt. 1. Stop seeking out distractions. They only get you in the way of your own success. Distractions help numb us from what we really want. 2. Stop saying yes to everyone. It’s necessary to take care of you, too. You will never be a good friend to someone else if you do not take care of yourself first. There is a difference between being self-caring and being selfish. 3. Stop thinking that you are a victim. You have the final decision in choosing what thoughts you give power to, what actions you take, and what words you say. Take responsibility for how you interact with the world around you. You can take action in your own life and change it. 4. Stop saying “I’m bored”. When you feel boredom arise, try writing down what you appreciate about the little things in life. You will find that with simple awareness, comes gratitude for life and all the things that happen outside of your immediate day to day life. 5. Stop ignoring or avoiding other people’s perspectives. Start approaching people more thoughtfully. People will appreciate you for deliberately trying to understand where they are coming from. It not only creates a basis for respect and empathy, but it also allows people to be more generous and open with you. 6. Stop being constantly “busy.” It’s easy to be busy and lose track of your priorities. It justifies never having enough time to take care of your needs. Realize that every time you give in to your ‘busy-ness,’ it’s you making that decision. 7. Stop settling for work that’s just “good enough.” People notice when “good enough” is how you approach your job and your life. Usually these people will be the same who have the ability to promote you. Try going for your best and see what comes out of it. Even if you fail, you know you tried your best. 8. Stop living a life that is comfortable all the time. Push yourself out of your comfort zone and your normal routine. If you want to go for something, strategize on how to make it happen. If you do one thing every day that pushes you, you will grow rapidly. 9. Stop doing all the “shoulds” in your life. They only evoke guilt, depression, and the awful feeling that you are living your life for someone else. 10. Stop spending money on things that you know you will throw away one day. Start spending your money on things that are important to you. Spend money on things you’ll keep. Clarify what you want to save for, so the idea of saving becomes real. Make saving a routine- even if it is only a very small amount. You won’t regret it. 11. Stop investing in friendships that are parasitic. They will only bring you down. 12. Stop being afraid. Life is too short. Make every second count.