The Perfect Gift
No need to drive yourself crazy about presents. The holiday season hits and something comes over us. We spend money we don’t have on presents no one probably even needs and stress ourselves out running from house to house or event to event. We get angry when dinner burns or Uncle Ron gets drunk. Why do we do it to ourselves? Even Hollywood understands that the perfect holiday doesn’t exist.
For one thing, our expectations get the best of us. Perhaps if we know that something could happen to throw a wrench in things, we won’t be so upset when it happens. It’s easier to go with the flow when we’re less rigid and when we remember the reason we are celebrating the holidays. “Holiday” comes from the words “holy days” as in, to make the day sacred, special, and peaceful.
The other thing is that we think that presents will let others know that we care-even if we can’t afford them. Your presence is the best gift of all. Instead of running around grabbing the last minute gifts or stressing over the money you don’t have, ask if you can help decorate, cook, bake, or set the table. Ask about their childhood, holiday or other special memories. Engage with those who are there.
Twenty years from now, no one is going to remember the gifts. They will, however, remember the time and attention you spent with them because it will strengthen our family bonds and show others that we really do care about them.